Am I a Feminist? … Not quite sure!
What does it mean being a Feminist? … Not sure again!
All my life I thought, speaking your mind as a woman is called feminism. At least all the people in my close circle certainly went out of their way to make me believe that. Once I went out on a date and the guy blatantly said ‘Women like you call yourself Feminists and then you expect the guy to pay the bill’. I told him a) I don’t want to be called a Feminist ‘cause I simply don’t understand the term and b) Thank you for directing my brain waves to ponder over such an important point, which I totally ignored till date.
As women when we expect men to treat us as equals, why don’t we actually act as equals ourselves. On a date, a man is expected to pay ‘cause that’s what our societal etiquettes say. Nobody ever thought that if the woman is earning equally well, she can share the bill or whoever has more money can do the honours.
This constituted one of the many facts I discovered through the short essay ‘We Should All Be Feminists’ written & narrated by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie. The essay encapsulates very basic truths about how the female gender is treated and how the males can contribute to dissolving that thin line existing between the two. I was enlightened by the mere facts stated by Chimamanda, which just go unnoticed in everyday life. And the melodious power with which she speaks just pulls you into her world of understanding and perspectives. A good listen indeed!
Find the Audiobook here – WE SHOULD ALL BE FEMINISTS